Have you ever looked at your personal life separately from your professional life? Have you examined the relationships and situations in both areas? What do you notice?
Personally, since I started running my own business, I’ve realized how important it is to know who I am and to recognize my strengths and weaknesses. The reason being, I’ve noticed that where I struggle in my personal life, I also face challenges in my professional life!
Choosing a partner or collaborator is similar to choosing friends. If you don’t recognize people in your personal life who share your values and don’t know how to say “NO” or set healthy boundaries, you won’t know how to do it in business either. Consequently, you might find yourself in situations thinking, “Oh, I trusted him/her, and he/she let me down.” Every relationship, whether personal or professional, is a reflection of us or our inner selves, so it’s crucial to think about it all—how you behave, your values, relationship maintenance, the amount of energy you allow relationships to take, and why. How much do you appreciate what you have, and how do you recognize the value of it? How much do you value yourself, and where do you see yourself in life?
Think about how many times in life you’ve been burnt and said, “Now I know better, now I know more. Now I know what I want and how I want it.” Those experiences are crucial, but often, as we go through them, we don’t reflect on why they had to happen or what in us created such an experience. Let me share a personal example. At the beginning of my business, my personal and professional life revolved heavily around one person. They confirmed that, despite the lessons I had learned, there were still things I hadn’t internalized, boundaries I hadn’t set, and my values and self-worth I hadn’t fully developed and strengthened.
However, what made this entire process easier, helping me recognize what I was doing wrong and why, and how to say no, step back, and see everything in a better light, was personal work—working on myself, experience in psychotherapy, and involvement in programs that made me better. They subconsciously taught me that I am important, and my desires and vision for my own life matter.