There are stages in life, this is something you and I know. And no matter where you stand, where you are coming from, or what you have accomplished (or not) until now, you’ll face similar things in life as I do, or others do. If you’re asking yourself what to do when feeling lost in life, remember: the real difference lies in how you respond.
Growing up
I think part of growing up is learning to understand that not every day is going to be the best day of your life. Chasing happiness and making it your goal to be always happy, is unreachable. It will mostly be agony rather than lead to peace and happiness.
People who have money often have problems with bonds and building a happy family life. And one of the biggest reasons why, is the price of that path which often requires being alone and facing challenges by yourself. People who want to build a life with love and family face losses when it comes to their own individula wishes and dreams. We all face lose of important people, illnesses, we face challenges, try to exit toxic relationships, try to keep others, and come back to our traumas even when we thought we had overcome them.
Life is lessons
And that is all normal. Life is more than joy; life is made of lessons we have to learn. Life should be challenging and hard, because we have to learn, grow, and change. Without that we would not be better, or worse. We would not achieve things, or fail to. We would not learn. In the end, we would not be changeable. And we would not face choices that can lead us to better changes. Eventually, we all want to be better, feel better, and make something of ourselves, achive our dreams, our own goals. But this comes with losing, with changing, with failing and with stressing. And it does not matter if you are visible or not, you will leave traces in each life, good or bad, pleasant or unpleasant. This is why we can say we are all connected.
What to do?
So, if you are in a phase of your life where you do not know what to do, I understand. If you’re wondering what to do when feeling lost in life I understand. Things seem heavy, unfair, unreachable, hard, and impossible, that they are happening to you. But they do, and they will. The storm is here, and it will pass. But do not let it change you into something you do not want to be. Let it change you into a better person. Let it help you build something beautiful. Learn from it. Make something out of it. Let yourself be human.
Think about what you are going through, what your beliefs were before, and what you are learning now. This might be a small thing: maybe you thought you did not love someone, but it turns out you do. Maybe you thought you could not do something, but you are doing it right now and achieving it. Maybe you thought you had friends, but it turns out they are not real friends, so it is time for a change. Or maybe it is time for you to be alone, learn about yourself, learn to love yourself, and face things alone that will only make you stronger.
The only thing you need is to be strong, to not give up, but to continue with your path, your wishes, your choices, and your ideas. Do not stop and do not turn around, because you will be stuck there. Just go through it. Change things. Stop and rest. Find new ways. But do not give up. You have this life and you have to live it. Make something, make something for your parents, whether they are here or not. For people who loved you and are here even if they are a thousand miles away. Make something for you, for the picture you had of yourself when you were a child, and make something for that girl/boy in you. Make something for your best friend or spouse.
Be a human of value and dignity, and let storms make you a better human. This is the only thing we all need: to grow old with dignity, with humanity, and with love. And to say we lived as we wanted, we made our own rules, chose our own challenges, and faced them with strength and hope. And when you forget what to do when you feeling lost in life, remember: keep going, keep learning, and keep believing in yourself.
By Lucija Buric